Session 4/13Page 4/5: Five Dimensions of Secure Caregiving
Five Dimensions of Secure Caregiving
Science has studied what caregivers do to give the child a secure relationship and develop a secure attachment pattern in the child. Here are five videos and text to illustrate and explain:
1: MUTUAL CONTACT
They use a melodious voice and clear facial expressions to show what they feel. They talk to the baby and try to make eye contact with it.
What caregivers do to give the child a secure relationship and develop a secure attachment pattern in the child:They act in a sensitive way. They have tasks (feed the baby/child, put on clothes, sing songs or make other activities, etc.), but they “read” the feelings of the child and resolve the task in a flexible manner: if the child is sad, they comfort the child while putting on shoes, if the child is happy putting on shoes it becomes a play, etc. Being sensitive means that you don’t follow strict rules, you motivate the child by “meeting and understanding the way the child feels right now”.
3: BEING AVAILABLE
What caregivers do to give the child a secure relationship and develop a secure attachment pattern in the child:
They are available for the child. If the child is distressed, sad, or in need, there is a caregiver around to comfort and soothe it, providing a secure base. Care is given without conditions and quickly, until the child feels secure again. In this example from Italy, several young people had problems doing their homework because of a lack of confidence and concentration problems. Staff decided that they always do their homework with a caregiver sitting next to them. This improved their school performance and increased their self-esteem.
4: FEELING WITH THE CHILD, NOT LIKE THE CHILD
5: MENTALIZING – TALK ABOUT FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS