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Urupapuro 4/6: Ingingo C: Gushushanya umubano wumwana cyangwa urubyiruko nubusabane

Ingingo C: Gushushanya umubano wumwana cyangwa urubyiruko nubusabane

Ni iki kigomba kuganirwaho no gutegurwa muguhitamo umwana cyangwa urubyiruko kugirango duhuze umuryango?

Nigute dushobora gusuzuma neza imibanire yabantu bose?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ni ryari umwana cyangwa umusore biteguye guhurira mumuryango?

Gikorwa cyo guhitamo umwana cyangwa urubyiruko rwo guhura ni inzira kugiti cye. Buri rubanza rwihariye. Kubikorwa byose bifatika kandi bifatika, nyamuneka reba iki gitabo.

Ubushakashatsi bwerekana ko ikintu cyingenzi cyatsinze muguhura ari ukugira umuyoboro wizewe.

Guhitamo neza umwana cyangwa urubyiruko biterwa cyane nurubanza rwabayobozi nababyeyi ba SOS, ubumenyi bwabo bwimbitse bwumwana, hamwe no gukorera hamwe mubakozi. Kugirango ugufashe gufata ibyemezo byuzuye, dore uburambe buva mumishinga yo kongera kwishyira hamwe nubushakashatsi muguhindura abarezi. Nibisanzwe kandi ntibishobora byanze bikunze gusaba umwana kugiti cye – nyamuneka shyiramo urubanza rwawe rwumwuga murubanza rwihariye.

Ni ryari umwana cyangwa urubyiruko rwiteguye guhinduka mubarezi?

Muri rusange, abana b’imyaka iyo ari yo yose barashobora kwemererwa guhurira mumuryango. Mu myitozo, ingimbi n’urubyiruko bakunze kongera kwiyunga.

Umwana muto ni muto, niko bizahinduka mubushobozi bwayo bwo kuva mubarezi bajya mubindi. Ubushakashatsi bwerekana ko abana barengeje imyaka itatu bashoboye cyane gushiraho umutekano wumurezi mushya. Nyuma yumwaka umwe cyangwa urenga wamacumbi, uruhinja cyangwa umwana muto bazabona umurezi mushya nkumubyeyi wamarangamutima, kandi ihinduka rizagenda neza.

Ku bana bafite imyaka itatu kugeza kuri cumi n’umwe guhinduranya birashobora kuba ingorabahizi, cyane cyane niba byari bifite umwanya muto wo kwizirika neza kubabyeyi ba SOS. Kuri iyi myaka, amarangamutima numubiri birakenewe kubuhanga bwingenzi, gukina, no kwiga iterambere. Guhinduka birashobora guhungabanya ubushobozi bwumwana bwo gukora mwishuri, no guca umubano rusange nitsinda ryurungano. Amaherezo guhura bizakenera urwego rwo hejuru cyane rwo gushishikara umwana, hamwe nubuhanga bwo kurera mumuryango.

Abangavu nurubyiruko akenshi barashobora kumva no kwerekana ibyo bakeneye nibyifuzo byabo, bagahitamo neza kubyerekeye guhura kwimiryango. Muri iyi myaka kandi birasanzwe gutandukana nabarezi b’ababyeyi no gutangira kubaho kwigenga. Urubyiruko rufite uburambe mubuzima hanze yumudugudu, kandi akenshi rufite icyifuzo cyo kuba mubaturage. Intangiriro yubugimbi irashobora gutera ihungabana ryamarangamutima numubiri, kandi hagomba kwitabwaho gutegereza gukura.

 

Abana bafite ibibazo byihariye cyangwa ubundi bumuga

Kongera guhuza abana bafite ubumuga bwumubiri cyangwa bwubwenge nikibazo gikomeye mumiryango myinshi. Birasabwa ko guhura kwambere mumuryango bigomba kuba hamwe nabana cyangwa urubyiruko rutera imbere kandi biteganijwe ko rushobora kumenyera impinduka. Abakozi bazubaka uburambe kubigoye kongera kwishyira hamwe kwabamugaye. Aya mabwiriza afite uburambe muri Afrika yuburasirazuba no mumajyepfo arashobora kugufasha gutegura inzira

 

 

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Nyamuneka muganire kandi ukore gahunda yakazi ukurikije ibyo utekereza:

  • Ni ibihe bitekerezo byacu bijyanye n’imyaka y’umwana cyangwa urubyiruko ruvugwa?
  • Ni izihe nyungu n’ingaruka mu myaka tugomba gusuzuma?
  • Umwana yiteguye guhura: nigute dushobora gukoresha ubu bumenyi?

 

Nigute wakoresha Ikarita yumubano wumwana nurubyiruko

 

Nigute dushobora kubona incamake yumubano wingenzi nubusabane bwumwana, kandi tugasobanukirwa nuburyo umwana yibona uwo yifatanije na – mbere, mugihe, na nyuma yo guhura mumuryango?

Ni ngombwa ko abayobozi n’abarezi bisuzuma ubwabo uwo umwana afitanye isano. Na none, kugirango umenye uko umwana abibona: Ninde wumva ufite umutekano kandi uhujwe, kandi wumva ari nde umutekano muke? Kandi, bene wabo basobanura bate umubano wabo numwana? Gukoresha iyi Ikarita bizagufasha kubona ibisubizo ukoresheje ibiganiro. 

Ikarita yumubano wumugereka iroroshye gukoresha. Ikigamijwe ni uguha ababigizemo uruhare bose muri rusange: umwana cyangwa umusore ninde? Ninde utuma wumva ufite umutekano cyangwa umutekano muke?

Ikarita iguha impande eshatu kugirango usuzume ireme ryumwana cyangwa umusore w’urubuga rusange:

Imyuga yabigize umwuga, uko umwana abibona, hamwe na bene wabo.

Nyamuneka fungura kandi wandike Ikarita yumubano wumwana nurubyiruko. Shira ahagaragara byinshi bikenewe, hanyuma usome

  • Ababyeyi ba SOS n’abayobozi ba gahunda buzuza Ikarita: Ni ubuhe buryo bw’umwuga tubona ku migereka y’ingenzi y’uyu mwana cyangwa ingimbi?
  • Kubireba umwana: Umuntu uzi ibibazo byumwana cyangwa urubyiruko kandi atanga ubufasha bwo kuzuza Ikarita. Nigute asobanura umubano wingenzi wumutekano cyangwa umutekano muke?
  • Mugusura murugo hamwe na bene wabo: Tanga kandi ubafashe kuzuza Ikarita. Nigute babona imigereka yabo kumwana. Batekereza bate ko umwana ababona?

Ibitekerezo bizahinduka mugihe cyo kongera kwishyira hamwe, nyamuneka koresha ikarita mbere, mugihe na nyuma yo guhura mumuryango. Nyuma yo gukoresha ikarita muri imwe mu ntambwe eshatu, nyamuneka muganire kandi utegure:

 

 

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  • Ese ibitekerezo bitatu (abanyamwuga, umwana, umuryango) byumvikanyweho cyangwa biratandukanye cyane?
  • Nigute tuzakora kugirango dushyireho amasezerano hagati yimpande zose zirimo?
  • Nigute dushobora gushimangira imigereka itekanye, no gukemura umubano udafite umutekano?

Niba isuzuma ryawe ryatumye uhitamo gukomeza, igihe kirageze cyo gutegura intambwe ikurikira:

Gukorana n’abakozi ba leta, no gutegura abaturage n’umuryango kwakira umwana ahantu hizewe.

 

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